How to Approach the Delicate Subject of Driving

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Why all the fierce emotion when talking about senior citizen driving?

Remember when you got your first driver’s license? That sense of pride and freedom stayed with you. If you’ve ever had surgery and a driving restriction while you were …recovering, you know how your sense of independence was curtailed. So to understand aging parents, just take that emotion and intensify it by the number of years they have been driving.For older adults the fear that they may have to stop driving for good is almost too much to bear. The culture that we live in is built on mobility. Public transportation is available for former senior drivers, but it may be too difficult to take without some assistance. Families often live at a great distance. And friends are scattered and may have their own physical challenges to deal with. The loss of the ability to drive as a senior citizen can feel like being trapped, isolated and alone.

For many elders, and their loved ones, determining when they are no longer safe on the road is a difficult and heart wrenching process — but ignoring the issue can be dangerous. I have had clients voluntarily give up their license AFTER a (luckily) minor accident. And they all have said they were very fortunate and glad that no-one got hurt (or worse – killed).

Age alone is a poor predictor of driving skills. But for most people, age-related changes in vision, physical fitness, and reflexes creep in over the years and can hamper the ability to drive safely. Keep tabs on the following areas and ask yourself whether they inhibit driving ability.
Changes in vision and hearing. A loss of visual acuity can make it harder for drivers to see essential traffic signs, lane lines, and other drivers and pedestrians. Conditions common for older eyes — cataracts, glaucoma, and macular degeneration — make it harder for drivers to see, and may also limit peripheral vision. A sensitivity to light at night, or night vision, can make the glare of oncoming headlights dangerous. And the loss of hearing can mean usual signals used to alert drivers, such as horns and sirens, go unheeded.

Limitations in physical fitness. A loss of muscle strength and flexibility can make it more difficult to steer, maneuver, grip the steering wheel, and pivot the head to check for traffic in the blind spot before changing lanes.

Slowed reflexes. Slower reflexes mean it may take a longer time for a driver to react to traffic signals, unexpected behavior in pedestrians and other motorists, and to gauge appropriate speeds.
Side effects of medication. Taken alone or interacting with one another, medications may cause drowsiness or confusion and make it difficult to focus. Many also have the unexpected side effect of lowering tolerance for alcohol, which can notoriously affect driving skills.
General health conditions. Physical and mental conditions that can appear in time with aging.
Warning Signs of Driving Problems It is often difficult to notice and regulate our own behavior. But it is usually “preferable” if an older driver notices his or her own diminished driving skills and takes action to improve or curtail driving voluntarily rather than being urged or directed to do so by another person.
If you do have any doubt as to whether you should continue to be driving, please look into the options below.

The AARP sponsors Driver Safety Courses nationwide, searchable by ZIP code at www.aarp.org or online at www.aarpdriversafety.org. And many local Department of Motor Vehicle (DMV) branches also offer refresher courses, often referred to as Mature Driver improvement Programs. Some private driving schools also offer such courses.

More humor :)

THREE WOMEN, TWO YOUNGER, AND ONE SENIOR CITIZEN, WERE SITTING NAKED IN A SAUNA.
SUDDENLY THERE WAS ABEEPINGSOUND. THE YOUNG WOMAN PRESSED HER FOREARM AND THE BEEP STOPPED.
THE OTHERS LOOKED AT HER QUESTIONINGLY. “THAT WAS MY PAGER,” SHE SAID. “I HAVE A MICROCHIP UNDER THE SKIN OF MY ARM.”
A FEW MINUTES LATER, A PHONE RANG. THE SECOND YOUNG WOMAN LIFTED HER PALM TO HER EAR.
WHEN SHE FINIS…HED, SHE EXPLAINED, “THAT WAS MY MOBILE PHONE. I HAVE A MICROCHIP IN MY HAND.”
THE OLDER WOMAN FELT VERY LOW-TECH. NOT TO BE OUT DONE, SHE DECIDED SHE HAD TO DO SOMETHING JUST AS IMPRESSIVE. SHE STEPPED OUT OF THE SAUNA AND WENT TO THE BATHROOM.
SHE RETURNED WITH A PIECE OF TOILET PAPER HANGING FROM HER REAR END.
THE OTHERS RAISED THEIR EYEBROWS AND STARED AT HER.
THE OLDER WOMAN FINALLY SAID……….”WELL, WILL YOU LOOK AT THAT……I’M GETTING A FAX!!

Senior Gifts

The greatest gift you can give someone is your love, time, and undivided attention. When you do that, you give a portion of your life that you will never get back – yet all those involved benefit greatly.     🙂

A Retiree’s Sense of Humor LOL

Yesterday I was at the Villages’ (an area north of Orlando full of retirees)
Publix (our large food chain in Florida) buying a large bag of Purina dog
chow for my loyal pet, Owen, the Wonder Dog and was in the check-out line
when a woman behind me asked if I had a dog. What did she think I had an
elephant? So because I’m retired and have little to do, on im…pulse, I told
her that no I didn’t have a dog, I was starting the Purina Diet again. I
added that I probably shouldn’t, because I ended up in the hospital last
time, but that I’d lost 50 pounds before I awakened in an intensive care
ward with tubes coming out of most of my orifices and IVs in both arms. I
told her that it was essentially a Perfect Diet and that the way that it
works is, to load your pants pockets with Purina Nuggets and simply eat one
or two every time you feel hungry. The food is nutritionally complete,
(certified), so it works well and I was going to try it again. (I have to
mention here that practically everyone in line was now enthralled with my
story.) Horrified, she asked if I ended up in intensive care because the dog
food poisoned me. I told her no, I had stopped to pee on a fire hydrant and
a car hit me. I thought the guy behind her was going to have a heart attack
he was laughing so hard. Publix won’t let me shop there anymore.

Better watch what you ask retired people. They have all the time in the
World to think of crazy things to say. Forward this (especially) to all your
retired friends…it will be their laugh for the day!

 

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A Letter from an Aging Parent to their Children

“My dear child, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read t…he same story night after night until you would fall asleep.

When I don’t want to take a shower, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a bath when you were just a child?
When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.
If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling children.”

– Unknown